Why Is My Self Confidence So Low

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    Recently I have been advising friends and clients about how to raise their self-esteem and build a brighter future for themselves.

    I get emails from people all the time with all sorts of problems and questions and often people just want to let me know that I’m not alone in my frustration and my struggle to feel better about who I am.

    The truth is that everyone feels this way at one point or another. I get it.

    In our fast-paced world, it can be hard to slow down and pay attention to yourself.

    It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by all of the things that you have to do, the people who want your attention, and the chaos that can come with this.

    When you feel like this you may feel like you can’t get anything done because you’re so focused on all of the noise in the world around you.

    So I decided to create a free resource to help you put things into perspective.

    These tips will help you to stop worrying about other people’s opinions of you and focus on your own needs.

    But you need to be honest with yourself and remember who you are and what you want.

    No one else can tell you that.

    It is up to you to listen to your inner voice and permit yourself to feel good about yourself.

    Loneliness is not so bad

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    I’ve come to realize that I’m incredibly lonely in my house and at work and even while I’m running.

    Most people may find this strange but as an introvert, I don’t get as much pleasure out of social situations as many other people do.

    I enjoy being with friends and I love to travel and have fun but when it comes to a deep emotional connection with other people, I’m much more of a homebody.

    When you’re an introvert, you need to be around people on a very different level than most people do.

    As an introvert, you require a different amount of alone time than most people do and that is okay.

    When you’re introverted, you’re living in your own world much more than most people are.

    You don’t get bored very easily and you enjoy listening to other people’s stories much more than you enjoy talking about your own.

    That’s why you may not get “depressed” or “stressed” as easily as most people do.

    You don’t let other people’s opinions of your control how you feel

    You feel what you feel and that’s how you know you’re a good person.

    A lack of social interaction can actually make you happier as an introvert.

    The more time you spend by yourself, the more time you have to think about yourself, and the more time you can spend by yourself, the more time you can spend with people that you truly like.

    Your friends and family can be the most important people in your life.

    They’ll help you out when you need a listening ear, they’ll help you out when you’re having a bad day, they’ll show you love and kindness whenever they see fit.

    You need to spend time with them.

    This doesn’t mean that you need to keep yourself locked away from everyone else.

    You need people in your life to connect to as well.

    If you’re not making time for yourself and living life, then you’re missing out on what life is all about.

    After you get up in the morning and you’ve had a good night’s sleep, take a long hot shower, make yourself some hot coffee and grab a magazine and take yourself out to a coffee shop.

    Sit for a while in silence, just reading

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    Then head back home and listen to some music while you put on your makeup.

    Take a bubble bath if you have some time and focus on your body and what you feel like wearing that day.

    Take a nap and start the day again fresh and happy.

    When you get home from work, go for a walk.

    Get some fresh air and get some exercise.

    This is not a chore, it is something that you want to do.

    Instead of thinking about how much work you have to do when you get home, focus on what you want to do.

    Don’t just sit around and watch TV.

    Start a habit of doing things for yourself.

    Go to a dinner party, take a dance class, make yourself some healthy foods, go to the gym, read a book, write a blog, paint your nails, call a friend, do your make-up, enjoy yourself.

    Those are all the things that you can do for yourself.

    You are too important to take yourself for granted

    Enjoy your life, don’t take it for granted.

    When I left work, I decided to go for a run.

    The run ended up taking me a full hour, but the good thing is that I didn’t feel stressed about doing it.

    When I get out of bed in the morning, I take a hot shower, get dressed, do my makeup and start my morning routine.

    I do a few minutes of stretching, brush my teeth, get dressed, and head out to my car to start my day.

    This was something that I used to do every day and I did it without even thinking about it.

    You need to take some time for yourself every day.

    You need to learn how to take care of yourself first.

    When you feel like you need a break, you need to take it.

    You need to listen to your body and get the rest that it needs.

    Instead of rushing through your life, learn how to enjoy the journey.

    Create a plan for every day of the week and every month of the year and then stick to it.

    Take time to read a book for fun

    Take some time to go to the park, to watch the clouds.

    Do the things that you love to do.

    When I worked, I would look forward to my four-day weekends and I would make sure that I spent at least one of them having a fun day at the park with my friends.

    This has changed into a much healthier habit now that I have a husband and I have a child.

    Now I take my son to the park and we play on the play equipment for hours and I take a walk through the park with him.

    What was once a chore and now I look forward to it.

    When I am not taking time for myself and focusing on taking care of my son, I start to feel like I am not enjoying myself.

    There is no time for taking your happiness for granted.

    Your happiness is the most important thing in your life.