Overcoming insecurity starts with understanding our true self and when we first get in the presence of our inner peace it’s easy to let go of any insecurities we feel.
We get lost in the comfort of our inner peace and make decisions based on that inner peace.
This is natural, however, once that feeling of inner peace dies or when we want to step outside of it, we are back in the cold, lost, and overwhelmed by the world.
This is when many people completely fall back into their own defenses to protect themselves from any more insecurity.
By avoiding our true selves, we build a wall around our thoughts and beliefs, which makes them very difficult to understand or see clearly.
We see things in extremes and assume that our way is the only way. We draw lines in the sand that only shows our own ignorance.
We create outer walls to protect ourselves from our own thoughts. The number one reason people lack confidence is that they believe that they are not worthy of self-love.
With that said, let’s go through a few points that are important to understand if you want to overcome the lack of confidence you’re currently feeling.
1. All in good time
Let go of your expectations about how quickly you will find success.
It’s not a race, it’s a journey. Start small and have no expectations, then slowly you can expand your path.
2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself
Remember that you are not alone and that you are not a failure.
Be inspired by your journey and share your experience with others.
Don’t punish yourself with fear, guilt, and feelings of unworthiness.
“When you feel the fear, go ahead and do it anyway. Do it proudly and do not feel guilty or unworthy about it.” – Roy T. Bennett
3. Awareness is the key
You know when you are feeling comfortable and confident and when you are not.
This is the greatest key to success.
Once you find your confidence and authenticity, you can surround yourself with others who are the same.
4. Eliminate the negative impacts
Be sure to analyze your thoughts and create new patterns.
If you catch yourself saying something negative to yourself, catch yourself before you say it.
That being said, there are times where it’s acceptable to speak out loud your thoughts to yourself.
“When I speak my truth, the truth reveals itself. The truth, when spoken by you, will reveal itself to me.” – Gabriella Giordano
Remember that the reality is, you are always only as good as your next best thought or action.
Be sure that your actions are positive, aligned with your values, and do not perpetuate an unhelpful thought pattern that you’ve been repeating for years.
5. Adopt new thinking
You may not even realize that your current thinking patterns are negative.
Try going through the steps below to adopt new thinking patterns that will help bring you towards your goals.
Decide that you are “done” (using the “wicked witch” technique from Thinking Fast and Slow).
Make a list of the things you are “not” doing that keep you stuck and use it as a motivation to make changes.
Watch your thoughts instead of reacting to them.
“Your success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition, you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.” – Theodore Roosevelt
6. Practice positive mental attitudes
Your mindset and behavior create your reality. Your thoughts create your world.
Make sure your thinking is aligned with your values, fears, and goals.
Try to eliminate all negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones.
“Just keep swimming.” – Dory from Finding Nemo
“If you ever doubt whether you can accomplish something in life, ask yourself: “Am I willing to accept the reality that I will not be perfect?” – Steve Jobs
7. Confidence doesn’t come from perfection, it comes from success
People are often afraid of being vulnerable. However, people who are successful in life are not afraid to put themselves out there.
They realize that this is where confidence comes from.
They have “no fear” and understand that if they are willing to put in the work, they will accomplish their goals.
8. Let go of fear
Fear is a natural human emotion. However, it’s important to remember that we need to let go of that fear and to express that energy to act.
If you are afraid to walk through the street alone, you will probably be afraid to do most things.
Once you realize this, take that fear and express it in other ways. Write about it, write a poem, dance, sing, perform, be a teacher or mentor, be generous.
“Everybody has two lives. One is hectic and crazy, filled with stress and worry; the other is calm and peaceful, filled with love and imagination.” – Oprah Winfrey